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Keystone Family Law Nov. 15, 2024

Ways to Co-Parent Effectively After Relocation

Relocating can be challenging, especially when co-parenting is involved. Moving to a new area often requires adjustments not just for parents but for children as well. 

Keep Communication Open and Consistent

Relocation requires changes in routines, making open and consistent communication crucial for successful co-parenting. Both parents should establish a schedule that allows them to communicate regularly about the child's needs, academic performance, extracurricular activities, and emotional well-being. 

Open communication makes sure everyone is on the same page and prevents misunderstandings.

We often recommend using various communication methods. Text messages, phone calls, and video chats work well for day-to-day updates while co-parenting apps like OurFamilyWizard can provide a shared calendar and secure messaging to track agreements and appointments.

Create a Co-Parenting Plan that Considers Relocation

With relocation comes the need for updated plans that account for travel and scheduling conflicts. A co-parenting plan should accomplish the following:

  • Provide a clear outline: Make sure to give details of visitation, holidays, and special events. 

  • Includes provisions for travel expenses and arrangements: This detail may help prevent arguments down the line.

  • Draft a flexible plan: Some situations—like unexpected weather or an emergency—may disrupt an agreed-upon schedule. Being adaptable helps reduce stress on children and maintains a healthy co-parenting relationship.

Focus on Stability for the Child

Children thrive when they have stability. While moving may disrupt a child's life, creating a consistent routine can make the transition easier. Parents should work together to provide as much stability as possible by keeping bedtime routines, school schedules, and extracurricular activities consistent.

It might also be helpful for children to have familiar items with them when they transition between homes. Allowing them to bring a favorite blanket or toy can provide a sense of security during periods of adjustment. Stability, after all, isn't just about physical routines—it's about emotional comfort too.

Foster Positive Relationships with Both Parents

No matter the distance, it's critical that children maintain a positive relationship with both parents. We understand that, after relocation, physical time together may be limited. 

That's why it's key for parents to support virtual communication through video calls or even regular letter writing. Keeping that bond intact is essential for the child's emotional health.

Both parents should also speak positively about each other in front of the child. Negative comments or criticisms can impact the child's emotional stability, making them feel torn between their parents. Our goal is to help both parents focus on what's truly important—the well-being of their child.

Utilize Technology for Virtual Parenting Time

When relocation limits in-person visits, technology can bridge the gap. Virtual parenting time can include video chats, playing online games together, or reading a story over a video call. When doing so, make sure to prioritize these key aspects:

  • Establish a consistent virtual visitation schedule: This is a great way to keep a close relationship with the child.

  • Schedule virtual check-ins: Taking this step is particularly helpful when co-parenting across different time zones. 

  • Make sure both parents are present: Being clear about the times that work for both parents and sticking to that schedule helps reinforce trust. 

It's all about making sure that both parents remain a part of the child's day-to-day life.

Address the Legal Aspects of Relocation

According to the Washington State Courts, requires approval from the other parent or a court order. If you're considering relocation, it's important to discuss it with the co-parent and reach an agreement before making any definitive plans. In Washington, relocation laws are in place to protect both parents' rights as well as the child's interests.

Our role as a family law attorney often involves assisting parents in drafting relocation agreements that work for everyone involved. If one parent opposes the move, the matter may require court intervention to determine if relocation is in the child's best interests. 

We're here to advocate for the needs of our clients, making sure that their rights and the child's well-being are considered.

Be Flexible and Willing to Adjust

Flexibility is key in co-parenting, especially after a major life change like relocation. Parents should be open to adjusting visitation schedules and co-parenting plans based on what works best for the child. 

It may take some time for the child to adapt to a new environment and routine, and both parents need to work together to make this process as smooth as possible.

Keep in mind that flexibility also includes being empathetic to the other parent's needs. For example, if the other parent wants to visit the child during a holiday they wouldn't regularly, being open to that request can make a big difference in maintaining a cooperative relationship.

Prioritize the Child's Emotional Well-Being

A child's emotional health should be the number one priority in any co-parenting situation. Be sure to monitor your child’s behavior and take the following actionsL

  • Be attentive: After a relocation, children may feel a sense of loss or confusion. Both parents should be attentive to these feelings and provide support as needed. 

  • Invest in therapy or counseling: If your child is struggling with the transition, professional therapy or counseling services can be beneficial during this period.

  • Work together with the other parent: We find that children are often more resilient when parents work together to meet their needs. 

When both parents are actively involved, they reinforce to the child that they’re loved and supported, even though the family dynamics may have changed.

Create a Visitation Schedule That Works for Everyone

Relocation often means longer travel times, which can complicate visitation schedules. A well-drafted schedule can help minimize disruptions and make things easier for the child. This may involve adjusting holiday schedules, including long weekends or vacations, to make sure that both parents have quality time with the child.

Some families find it helpful to alternate major holidays, while others prefer to split school breaks evenly. The goal is to make sure that the child maintains a meaningful connection with both parents despite the distance.

Creating an effective co-parenting plan after relocation involves a few key considerations:

  • Regularly update the co-parenting plan: Circumstances may change, and your original plan may need adjustments over time. Keeping the plan up-to-date makes sure it's still meeting the needs of the child and both parents.

  • Plan for transportation logistics: Whether it involves flying or long car rides, it's important to have a clear plan for how transportation will be handled. Both parents should share in the responsibility for travel costs and logistics to avoid any disputes.

  • Be mindful of the child's schedule: Coordinating visits around the child's school and activity schedule can help minimize disruptions and make transitions smoother.

  • Communicate about special events: Discussing events like birthdays, school plays, or sporting events ahead of time allows both parents to plan for these occasions and stay involved in the child's life.

Seek Legal Guidance When Needed

Relocation can complicate co-parenting, but having a knowledgeable family law attorney by your side can make the process easier to manage. We often assist clients with modifying existing parenting plans to accommodate a move, and we work to make sure that the interests of both the parents and the child are protected.

Our firm is committed to providing legal representation that's accessible and tailored to our clients' needs. Since we operate as a virtual office, we can flexibly meet with clients, offering the convenience of discussing your case from the comfort of your home. 

We understand that relocation can feel like a major adjustment, but we're here to provide the guidance and support necessary to make it work.

Co-parenting after relocation can be challenging, but it doesn't have to be insurmountable. By focusing on open communication, flexibility, and the well-being of your child, both parents can create an environment that promotes stability and emotional health. 

Remember that creating an effective co-parenting plan takes effort from both sides, and adjustments may be needed along the way.

If You Need Legal Help With a Familial Relocation, Call Us

At Keystone Family Law in Vancouver, Washington, we’re familiar with family dynamics. The process can seem overwhelming, but by prioritizing communication and planning, co-parents can help their children adjust smoothly and thrive after relocation.

We're proud to serve all cities within Clark County. Contact us at Keystone Family Law today for experienced legal support.


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